Spanking - Chronic Excessive Manliness: Spanking

I tend to lean towards the more conventional style of corporal punishment, meaning domestic discipline and traditional bare bottom spanking. However, depending on some Doms personal lifestyle, desires and preferences, some training methods may also include service oriented submission, being a house maid so to speak, with a French maid or Victorian household theme, or even from other eras or cultures should that be the case. It is called "training" for a good reason.

For others training in manners, poise, grooming, proper selection of wardrobe and attire with the requisite accessories are of paramount importance. Training her how to sit, stand, speak, genuflection, perhaps bowing, how to curtsy, there are many variations that apply to the accomplishment of the end result, the finished "project" if you will. From the very tame and mundane chores like teaching her the proper place setting of a dining room table, to the sexually humiliating demands by mentoring her how to properly fellate a cock. All may be of great importance to some, as every Dominant has his own agenda and impetus behind undertaking a challenge such as this.

Sure, many submissives are rather compliant from the offset and easily malleable. Using those as a training and reward method, the carrot and the stick so to speak, are not going to be as effective as say public humiliation, certain other forms of corporal punishment, anal punishment or being more of a sex slave as opposed to a "trad wife" for example.

It's important to identify reasons for a punishment, and also obviously limits. Some submissive women might require heavy-handed administration, others need a lite touch, some may resist and need to be encouraged in a positive manner, to achieve self acceptance of her role in the relationship. Obviously respect of the submissive is very important. Assigning tasks that are repugnant, or extreme severity, brutality and so on are an abuse of the Doms role and power, and need to be avoided. Being strict and stern, unyielding and demanding should never equal abusive.

Open communication is essential. Some Doms may require a report from the submissive after each spanking, be it moderate or more severe. The same with scolding. Was it on point, too harsh, was there too much subtle nuance or words or directions that were not understood? Keep in mind that during, prior to, or right after a sound spanking the submissive may be a ball of quivering flesh (sub space as some term it). Interrogation at that moment might not be a wise idea. Time and place is important. You want to create a certain ambiance, in a quiet and comfortable room, maybe next to a fireplace, drapes drawn, where she feels secure and safe. When that is assured if she fails to be forthcoming with her answers, sure, short, quick slaps to her bottom, not brutal, but sound and firm, will satisfy your desire for adequate replies to your questions that she needs to answer, as it is important, and required.