After Spanking Rubbing...

 

Spanking Women...Currently Sans Woman.

I'm so bored and isolated that I'm...Thinking of calling phone sex lines to discuss hermeneutics, politics or gluten free recipes. No desire to discuss sex though as, I don't pay for "meh" dialogue, or sex. So, instead, I am contemplating some/all of the following...

Thumb wrestling with myself, and losing.

Giving myself atomic wedgies...just for the thrill. 

Cleaning the cleaning brushes with recently cleaned cleaning supplies. 

Probably incapable of having polite face-to-face discourse with a female, without offering to bite her ass. Or, biting her ass first, then offering to have conversation. Gluteus Maximus Mastication...its a "thing".

 

Rolling out the red carpet in front of myself as I trundle from room to room, but as I find myself sans Tiara, and don't play the trumpet, the overall "feel" is not the same. 

Having conversations with strange looking people wearing funny clothes, and then realizing its just me...talking to a mirror and wearing different clothes. 

If any of this resonates with anyone....my apologies and commiseration fully offered in advance. If any of it is akin to something a feminine female of the femme fatale variety wants to deal with...have your carrier pigeon contact my smoke signals.   :) 

Spanking - BDSM should *Not* be about Savagery and Brutality.

So there you are, minding your own business, cruising around some group, you see a thread where someone is asking for moderate punishment ideas when spanking is not an option. People leave suggestions, you come back hours or a day later and...WTF?  

Someone mentions kneeling on rice, someone else adds something about being outside, the suggestions seem to grow harsher and more savage, you're sort of caught off guard as...the question was about "moderate" punishments.

By the time you read the whole thread, with some people building off of other peoples suggestions while adding more to it and...its like they got some little submissive chick kneeling on rice, for days, outside, in the cold, during a snowstorm, a blizzard, at night, while having her bare feet caned, with a variety of artificial penis type props inserted in multiple orifices, while being whipped, with a gag on, and nipple clamps, while its 110 degrees, denied food and water and...you get my point. 

I wonder if BDSM porn and certain types of stories, plus social media "challenges" have contributed to this. I recall in the early days of pornsites, some website owners "bragging" about how they're spanking or caning harder than their competitors, trying to get noticed, to get traffic to their site, to get memberships, to make cash. It's sort of like a competition now, the harder, more severe, more marks, bruising and even blood, the "better". This is just so stupid and wrong. 

I will punish a female on the bare bottom, soundly, even severely. I mean, I'll tear that ass up. And I might bite her ass, plus I enjoy a bit of rough sex, domination and the like...but how did we go from that to harsh cruelty, severe abuse, and just...misery. I don't get it. So much of this seems like abject exploitation. Its as if there is no concern for the well being of the submissive, they just exist to be used, and discarded. And I hope that novice subs, neophytes, don't come across this and think its "expected" of them, or that they have to forfeit their own desires, limits, needs and agency, just to satisfy some "Dominant", who isn't really worthy of that title and should be avoided at all costs. A bit of sanity, common sense and empathy here, would be a good thing.  :)